Thursday, October 24, 2013

My roots VO

Hello everyone,

    In my previous post Who Am I,  I described my present life as an adult... I once read, that"We are        the  Sum  of all our Childhood Experiences and those of our parents, their parents and those who came      before them"... In this, post I plan to go back in time and write about some of the stories, I have heard  from my parents, aunts, uncles and older cousins; about our 'family's History... My grandparents from  bouth sides, decided to immigrate from  Russia to Palestine (future Israel) at the turn of the century,  inspired by Theodor Herzl, the well known Jewish Author and Journalist,who encouraged the European  Jew, to leave Europe and move to Palestine; the future Israel; the 'Promised land'...  Herzel, who was     covering the "Dreyfus Affair", for Newspapers in Paris and Vienna; was alarmed by the  the waves of Antisemitism during this Trail, realized that the 'Dreyfus Affair, was just the beginning of 'Up coming  wave of Antisemitism in Europe... For many years, Herzl was publishing articles, about the"Up Coming danger of Antisemitism", gave lecturers, wrote his Best Selling book"; The Old-'New Land', about the European Jews, and about an upcoming wave of Antisemitism... Urging the Jewish people in Uurop, to move to Palestine,which was then, under the rule of Turkey; the Ottoman Empire. Herzel was erging the European Jews, to sell all their material possessions, in order to make this  important move, which will save them, from an Up Coming Catastroph in Europe!

   My father's parents, who arrived to Palestine in1905, during the "Second Wave of Immigration"          setteled in Jerusalem. My grandfather was a very religions Jew, who made his living, by creating         small models of the Biblical Holy places in and around Jerusalem... My father who was born in Jerusalem, was the youngest of six children: His older brother Jacob, was drafted into the Turkish        Army, during the First World War and was never heard from again... My grandfather never gave              up the hope, that his eldest son, is still alive and believed that one day he will come back home...  

The Cohen family; 3 sisters
2 younger brothers

   Shoshana, Lea and Rachel; were my father's older sisters; Aron, his     brother, was older then him, in four years... As a young child, I loved         to listen to my dad's stories, about his childhood and was especially   moved and sad for him, when he told me, how when he was about six  years old, his mother died from pneumonia, at the age of forty three...      His sisters Lea and Rachel, left the house to study Nursing and became Midwives (an extremely respectable profession at that time)... Shoshana   my dad's oldest sister was a  teacher, as well as a writer, who's poems       and short stories, were published in the local Newspapers and Magazines. Shoshana was an adventures; For several years she lived in Egypt, working in King Faruk's Palace, as a teacher for his children. She would later move to Europe and was teaching Hebrew and Jewish history at Jewish schools,    in Germany and England... Besides teaching, Shoshana was giving lectures, at Jewish kcommunities and swas preding Theodor Herzl's warning, about the wave of Antisemitism, which is about to sweep Europe... She urged her new friends, to sell their homes and move to their Biblical homeland, which during those days, was under the rull of  Turkey; the Otoman Empaier...My aunt Shoshana, became involved in the budding Suffragettes Movement, which started in England an eventualy became, the"Women Liberation Movement"... 

    While working in Germany, Shoshana became interested in Vegetarianism, which was gaining popularity during that time... In London, she made friends with some of the well known intellectuals of  the time, among them the authors Oscar Wild and George Bernard Show, with whom she corespondent  for many years, after returning home to Palestine... My aunt Shoshana, introduced her two sisters to the new idea of Vegetarianism, which was very popular in Germany, during that period of time... The three    of them, adopted this new way of life with 'Fanatic Enthusiasm'... Shoshana believed in the 'Suffragettes' idea  that "Marriage, was a form of Slavery!" She convinced her sisters that since the three of them had  good professions, which made them be Financially Independent Women, who are capable of caring for themselves... They dicleard that as "Liberated women"' do not have to get married and become "Slaves to a husband!" My three aunts never got married ...

The Dubnikov family

   My mother's family, the Dubnikov's, came to Palestine from Russia around the same time my dad's family did... Hoever, unlike my father's family, they were not religious at all, they declared themselves as Zionists, following Herzl's vision of settling in Israel, the promised Jewish land! Unlike my dad's family, my mom's parents, were not religious; but Zionists! who came  back to our old country, to rebuild the Jewish Home Land! However, instead of finding a land of "Milk and Honey, mthey met the local premetive Arabs and cruel Turkish Rulers..The family settled in Northern 'Palestine' ready to build an Agricultural Villag,  nfortunantley they found the land, to be full of Swamps and Mosquitos...The women, children as well asthemselves, became sick with Malerya, which took many lives..These New Pioners, began to dry the swamps and build homes, drilled for water and planting wheat,vegetables and fruit groves. After several years of hardship, the Dubnikov family, gave up and moved to a more established settlement; Zicron Yakov. It was among the first Agricultural settlements in Palestine, financed by the well known, French-Jewish Baron :Yakove Rothchild, who edviced the new settlers to build a large wine celler,where they would turne the grapes into wine; for local use, as well as exporting it to other countries...

The village of Zichron Yakov
 Locally growing Black, red and green grapes Wine cellar

  My mother Tsvia, her two sisters Yehudit and Ruth, as well as the younger brother Tsvi, were born and raised in this village, which would play an important chapter, in the history of Israel... During the first world war, when Britain and Turkey  were fighting over the Middle East; members of the Aronson family who lived in Zichron Yakov, spied for the British; passing them information about the Turkish military... The spies were eventually caught, tortured and executed by the Turks and will be known, as the heroic Jewish Spy Organization, Nili; who's members, fought by the side of the Briish, to liberate the country from the primitive, cruel and tyrannical Turkish rulers... In my youth, I took pride in the fact that my mother, was born in this 'Famous Villag', where the well known Aronsons used to be her  neighbors...

Some of the
Nili spy ring
General Allenby is entering
Jerusalem with the victorious
British troops
Sarah and Absalom,
the main spies

   My brother and I loved to listen to our "Ima's" (mom) stories, about her childhood... She would describe the magnificent view from the top of the mountain, where their home was built, surrounded by fields and vineyards, with the blue Mediterranean sea sparkling below... My brother and I loved to hear how our mother, sisters and girlfriends; used to play "Hide and go seek" among the grape vines and bring home wild flowers, they picked in the fields, to decorate the table for the Sabbath dinner, on Friday night...

Ima in school
(standing on the right)
A New Year card
from Ima's cousins

   My brother and I had a favorite story, which we kept on asking our mother to tell us, time and time again... It was about the kids in her village who had only one pair of shoes... "If our shoes needed repair we would bring it to the one and only Shoemaker in our village and walk barefoot to school..." "You walked barefoot to school?!" Rami and I would exclaim in shock!  Ima was also telling us how most of the kids as well as the adults ,walked barefoot all  the time, especially in the the summer... X "During those days, the roads were not paved, like in big    cities and most of the people were walking barefoot, on the dirt roads!"x Ima told us...As a child, as well  as in later years, I experienced a repeated dream (Rather a nightmare...) in which I was walking barefoot to school and my class-room friends and teachers, are pointing at my bare feet and laugh... Some of my mom's teachers, who later became well known scholars and writers, instilled in her the love of reading as well as a great respect for books, which many of them were translated into Hebrew; from Russian, as well as English, French, German and Italian... My Ima, passed on to me her passion of reading; as well as her joy of life and the gift of laughter and story gtelling......

   After World War I, Britain put an end to the rule of the Ottoman Empire, and divided the Middle East between France and England... Israel (rather Palestine) became a British Colony and life began to flourish under the new civilized rulers... The British Governors, began to pave the dirt roads, which connected the  remote Arab and Jewish villages, as well as the isolated Kibbutzim and small farms and towns, to the big cities of Haifa, Tel-Aviv and Jerusalem... The new rulers introduced electricity to some of the remote places, creating public schools, police force and ourts of law. Movie theaters, opened up for the first time, as well as the traditional English 'Four O'clock Tea, were introduced and embraced, by some of the Jewish and Arab families... The former citizens of the primitive Turkish rulers, adopted the British and American music and were dancing the popular Swing, Shag, Lindy Hop and the Jitterbug,\ and wdere singing the popular songs; "I am in the Mood for Love," and the "White Cliffs of Dover"... Needless to say that the new civilized rulers, were welcomed by the old settelers, with open arms!  Romances bloom between British soldiers and Jewish young women, in spite of the objection of their strict families... A few got married and moved to England, but most of the affairs came to an end, leaving behind tears and many broken hearts, on bouth sides: Israel and England...

My brother
Rami and I
My brother
and parents

   My parents, who met in Tel Aviv, got married and moved to the  Jerusalem, next to my father's family... My dad accomplished his    old dream and opened a Garage with his partner Moti, where they serviced the cars of the British military, as well as those of the few wealthy Arabs and Jews, who were able to afford a car... My brother Rami, was born in 1938 and I followed five years later, in 1943...

   After living in a small village, my mom was thrilled to be in a Large City!  The tiny apartment we lived in, was always full of people, whose favorite past time besides talking and arguing, was playing cards... My dad, who was a good joke teller, was rewarded by the loud and joyous laughter of our gusts...Life was very good, until rumors began to spread about a 'Madman  named Hitler', who was rising to power in Germany... His shirking voice, which could be heard on the radio, was hurting my ears... Rumors began to spread about a wave of Antisemitism, which started in Germany and was spreading to it's neighboring countries and around Europe."Didn't the Germans learn Anything from their crushing defeat, during the last war? X "Why do they do it again?"x People asked... 

    Below are five excellent movies, describing the historical events, before and during WWI and WWII.

Fiddler on the Roof
The Dreyfus Affair
Golda Meir
Lawrence of Arabia
World War II

With Love and Light,
Shira

Sunday, October 20, 2013

x What is my work about. V, O

Hello everyone,

    I am happy to let you know, dear readers, that my last MRI confirmed the fact that Tum the Tumor'    left no traces behind... My Brain is clear and the next medical review, would take place in six months  from now... I realize that some of you, who  started to read  my Tumor Humor blog , only recently, do    not quiet know me... So here are few details which may help...To begin with, I was always an avid reader  attending seminars, lecturers and constantly looking and searching, for new information, regarding human behavior, as well as following the big changes which are taking place around the world... I was always interested in Psychology and Metaphysics fascinated me, as well as any other kind of  new information regarding the human behavior,... The information I gathered through out the years, from many different sources, would eventually be a great help, when I finally became a Clinical Psychologist...

   When my daughter Karen was in 4th grade, she said to me with astonishment:"You know Mom, "It   seems as if you never stopped going to school"... She was right! I was consistently studying, searching, and looking for new information! After receiving my P.h.D in Psychology, one of my friends told me         I was 'Addicted to Learning'... In a way she was right! One of the most impotent and helpful tools I discovered and added to my work, was Hypnotherapy! Looking back it seems I have always been Fearless... After being diagnosed with  Brain Tumor, in my fifties( XX) I gave a Good by party to this unwanted 'visitor',  two weeks before my surgery and decided to name the tumor Tum... At one point during the party, one of my friends, stood up and said the following: "Shira is a woman who looks Satan  in the eye and laughs at him!"... I took it as a great complement and thanked her for this observation... 

   What else could be said about me besides being fearless?  I enjoy reading, writing, travel,  good movies  the theater, host dinner parties at home and listening to classical music... Mosley though I have always  enjoyed spending time with good friends...  I enjoy spending time with my tiny family; my husband Al  our only daughter Karen, her daughter Eliyah (my grandchild) and Moses, our small black and white mix of Maltese, Shiatsu and Toy Poodle (our third dog...) I enjoy spending time with relatives (most of them) with my friends and clients (all of then) adore babies, enjoy decorating our home, work in the garden socialize and have people over for dinner parties, barbecues, conversations and be engaged in stimulating conversations... Above all: "I love to Laugh!"

  Allow me to tell you a bit about my work as a Clinical Hypnotherapist...  To begin with my work is not limited to traditional psychology only... The ward Hypnosis is derived from the "Hypno", which was the God of Sleep in the Greek Mythology... Hypnosis was used as a Healing Tool in ancient Greece,way  before spreading to other countries... Years later, it's use was prohibited by the Catholic Church and made  a come back, during the First World War, due to lack of Morphine, which was needed for surgery... This method was forgotten until it made a comeback in the  early 50's, when it became popular again...

   Another powerful healing method I have been using, is called Voice Dialog...  It was created by Dr. Hal Stone, with whom I was privilege to study... Dr Stone's work, introduces us to the realization, that we are not just One Person... It helps us realize we are made of three important Sub -Personalities, which are the   Vulnerable, Playful and Magical children (group A)... The Adult which is also divided into three, consists  fro the Inner Critic, Pusher and the Perfectionist (group B). It has been said, that Voice Dialogue is not just a Therapy, but actually an Enlightenment...Besides this method, I also adapted (rather embraced) a method named Voice Dialog and other beneficial ways of healing, which takes a much shorter time, to show the results, then our Traditional Therapy...

   Most of us live our lives, without realizing, that one of our 'Sub personalities is taking over... Dr  Stone says that when the "'Child part' of our personality, sits behind the wheel of our car (our life) we may get into many accidents...  I will share with you a cas, of a woman I worked with, several years ago: Sara, a thirty five years old client, came to see me, because she did not want to have children... Her husband  who wanted kids, was threatening with a divorce, if she would not change her mind! Sara had every reason in the book, for her refusal to have kids (some of which made lot's of sens.)  She calmed that after many years of working hard, she and her husband finally achieved their goals! They had a great social life and enjoyed hiking, cursing, swimming and skiing, as well as traveling throughout the US , Europe and the world at large...  Joy feared that having children, would put a stop to it.. "To have a child means a lifelong of commitment, constant worries, big expenses, lack of freedom, serious obligations and overwhelming responsibility!" She said.

   Joy and I worked for a while, scanning her childhood... It seems that her younger brother, suffered from severe Juvenile Diabete andt heir parents seemed to direct most of their attention to him...  As a child Joy felt neglected, abandoned, ignored and unloved... At one point in our work, she remembered herself, as a five years old kid, standing on the kitchen table and declaring to her parents: "I will Never have children!"  Wow, here was a key for her resistance to having a child... "Do you realize Joy, that although, you are now a woman of thirty five, you are still following a decision, made by a Five Years old girl?!”  She was stunned... It was amazing to watch, how quickly all her 'good reasons' for 'not having a child' began to collapse... When I shared this with then, my sixteen years old daughter Karen (without reveling the client's identity) she said: “If I would have listened to my inner five year old child, I would have by now, twelve children and a pink Cadillac..."

   The members of group A (Vulnerable, Playful and Magical children) dislike responsibility...The Playful Child ,would rather play then do chores... The Magical child ,wants to create magic and the Vulnerable child, would rather hide and escape into a 'Safe and protective world of it's own'...  On the other hand we ought to remember, that these inner kids, are responsible for our Pure Joy, Laughter, Playfulness, as well as Creativity, Unconditional Love, our Curiosity an Spontaneity... We should always remember, that these "Kids", are behind the Magic in our life!  I often invite my clients 'Inner kid', to join us at our therapy session, in order to help the "Adult" lighten up!  I will do so by talking directly to these Inner kids, who are always happy to pop up... If the "child" is very sad, I may present it, with my 'silly' Tissue box (below) to dry the tears...( It always makes them laugh)... I may also use my "Magic Wand", to help remove  pain and sadness... Once, when I was showing this Wand, to a ten years old girl, asking her which magic would she like to create, her little face, filled up with excitement "Can we make my sister disappear?"she asked.   

   Group B; the Adult part of the personalty, is very Serious and could be Demanding and Critical, even though (or maybe because) it's goal is to help us become very successful in life... When this group is out of balance, the 'Inner Critic', could do a lot of Damage, by telling an Anorexic teenager, who weighs seventy pounds, that she (or he) are "Too Fat!"...  It is the combination of the Critic, Perfectionist and Pusher, which makes the driving force behind the parents, who scan their child's report card, looking at the five A's and one B and ask: "Why B?!"

   The most important part of Voice dialog, is to be introduced, to the Inner Parts of the clients; so they may learn, how to communicate with one another... It is said:"If you can Name it; you can Tame it!" The goal is to unveil the client's mischievous inner parts and create a dialogue, between them... I also teach how to better  communicate with the needy and Vulnerable Inner children, learn to love these disowned parts and help them become more balanced, by 'Integrate' their inner "kids" with the Adult parts... 

My Tissue box
Kwan Yong, Goddess
of Mercy,with my wand

   My (inner)'Playful child', would like to share with you two photos: One is the tissue box in my office,which makes my crying clients laugh as they reach for a tissue, to wipe off their tears... Next, is the image of that of Kwan Yong,  who is the Hindu Goddess of mercy, who is sitting in the garden holding my "Magic Wand"... The clients, who sit outside, waiting for the one in my office to leave through another door, often say that looking at the expression of peace,on the bronze face, is h reducing their pain and makes them smile again....                             

With Love and Light
Shira

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

A New Beginning V,O

Hello everyone,

  After the ordeal with Tum the tumor was over, I attempted to go back to writing, but was worried that anything I write, may be anti climactic, compared to what I have written so far... After al,what can I write about which 'beat' a brain tumor? "Just write about Yourself!" came the answer. "Your thoughts, work  and your spiritual development"." My readers and friends told me...

" It may be so boring!" I said... "You Boring?! You may be many things Shira, but 'Boring' you are not!   Just make a commitment to write and do it!" came the answer, but I kept on resisting:"I am a Gemini as you  know." I said "I tend to jump from one thing to another, how can I obligate myself to write on a regular basis, like the 'Normal' bloggers do? Besides, I am very busy with my work, my small family, our social life, all kinds of seminars and constantly look, for new information in the Metaphysical Field, to use it in my work...  At times, I could be all over the place, just like a 'Scattered Brain' Professor,' as my dad used to say... I wish I was more disciplined, consistent and organized - but I am not... Maybe I should simply sit and write whenever I feel like, with out making such a big Drama about every thing!"

  I always loved to write... I began writing poetry when I was nine years old. When I was eleven, I               owned a 'Special' Hard Cover Notebook, which became my Dairy... I remember almost "Passing out  from excitement"; when my parents bought me a Manual Typewriter for my twelve birthday...Years        later, after moving to California, I sent letters to several television stations, asking if they would consider having "One hour a day of Good News Only!" I included information about studies, linking depression and violent behavior, to the Negative news in the Media and named several studies, which proved the effects it has on the minds of children as well as the adults! I never heard back...

  But I did not give up... I found several sources of reliable information, assuring us, that our world is not going to "Drown in Negativity and Violence'', as it seems to be doing, on and off, throughout history and learned, that humanity is at the "Dawn of a New Enlightenment!"... One of my favorite information and news about the up coming new Age, comes from Ellen Kaufman Dosick, who resides in Northern California and has been one of my favorite spiritual teachers for many years...

  The Metaphysical knowledge which I received from many sources and different belief systems, helped me in later years to comfert my clients (as well as myself) by learning and spreading the news, that better times are coming and a new wave of Enlightenmen, is on it's way... This Shift, is meant to help us remove the pain we have been experiencing, in our present 3D world and help us begin our Journey to the Fifth Dimension; the 'Spiritual world', which is consistent of pure love, peace and complete harmony, between us people and all of God's creations... In other words,we have been slowly getting ready, to move into a new reality, similar to the one, our forefathers experienced in the Garden of Eden, before humanity was exiled to our present 'Third dimensional' world; as a punishment, for eating the 'Forbidden Fruit' of the Tree of Knowledge...

   I often wondered, what kind of a world we would be living in, if Adam, did not take that first forbidden bit, from the frute of the Tree of Knowledge...If he did not, would mankind keep on living in a paradise of peace, love and friendship, unity and complete harmony? A world were jealousy, competitions, arguments, vindictiveness, hatred and wars; do not exist?...Where people embrace one another, live together and be sharing love, happiness, health and peace; in a world free of conflicts, disagreements, comptition,  hatred arguments, division, suffering and wars? Unfortunately, looking at the state of the world, these days, we seem to be far away from such a place, since most of the world, is still suffering from various kinds of conflicts, upheaval and wars...What went wrong? Was it realy the forbiden apple Adam ate?

  How are we going to deal, with all the stumbling stones, which block our way towards a happier and more peaceful life?  What can we do to make the wrong right? I have been pondering this question for so long, trying to find the right answers, in many different places... When I finally get the answer, I promise to share it with you... Until then, I keep on looking for it, colecting along the way bits of new information about the up coming journey, which humanity is about to go through and finally, find the way to our new spiritual home, in the Fifth Dimension....What is this allusive dimension all about? It seems as if I have been looking for the answer since I was a young child, always looking, searching, waiting...






With Love and Light,
Shira