Hello everyone,
People often ask me about the nature of my Work: X"After all, you are not what one may call a 'Typical Therapist"X, they would say...Well, I was always searching and looking for ways, to incorporate, new information, with our old time 'Psychology' and teaching, regarding Human Behavior...Some of the most powerful methods, came from the Psychologist Dr Hal Stone, was the use of Hypnotherapy' and 'Voice Dialogue'... We were a very small group of young therapists, who gathered to learn more, about the fascinating new tool "Voice Dialog", which I felt very grateful and fortunet learn... Our sessions took place in Dr Stone's garden, regardless the weather... If one of the young therapist, dared to complain about being cold, Dr Stone would send them to the 'closet' in his home, to pick up one of the many coats or jackets which were hanging there...
I would now like to present you, dear readers, with several 'Case history' of Traditional Psychology, I have seen Dr Stone conducting... Throughout the years I came to realize, that as much as Human Beings may be different from one another, they are basically very much the same; especially during childhood By now we realize that our 'Human Compute' is often using 'Associations' in order to come to a cretin conclusion... For example: A husband may ask his wife, to do a simple chore and the "Ton of his Voice" may remind her of her Nagging Father... Or the 'Boss may criticize his secretary, when she appears in the office with 'Bleached hair' , because (unknowingly) it reminds him of the time his daughter, did the same In bouth cases, the reasons for the negative reaction, have nothing to do with reality, it is based on old forgotten 'similar experiences', stored in the Subconscious Mind... Bellow are four cases, describing the tremendous power it has, as well as the way It works through these kind of associations...
Case 1 - "Bill"
"Bill" came to see me regarding his "Dysfunctional relationships" with women... His father was killed during the second world war, when Bill was only three years old... Bill's mother, was suffering from alcoholism throughout his childhood... He once told me about the times, he was all alone in their small apartment, when 'Strangers', would bring his 'Drunk Mother' home, dump her on the sofa and leave The small boy, learned to bring his mom a bucket, to "Throw up in" and wipe her face with a wet towel sitting next to to her bed crying and waiting for her to get sober... As an adult, Bill's relationships with women, were one disaster after another... He seemed to attract women, who suffered from all kinds of addictions and other emotional problems. During the session of Voice Dialog, I often 'Invite' my client's "Wounded Inner Child", to sit on a 'special chair'... It never stopped to amaze me, how grown up, Tough Men, who seldom show or share their emotions, begin to weep, as they describe the painful events from their childhood. Not only women, men cry as well... Maybe no one ever told them before that "Men are not suppose to cry!"
After Bill set on the chair, reserved for the 'Inner Child', I asked him to go back to the time, he was sitting next to his unconscious, alcoholic mother and he began to weep...“What's going on Billy?” I asked gently taking his hand in mine: “Why are you crying?” “I am crying because my mother doesn't love me...” Bill said sobbing, his big body shaking with grief... “Why do you think your mom doesn't love you?” I asked gently. “Because I am not lovable"... Came his answer, which would be a typical conclusion of a child... During our future sessions, I would learn that Billy's mother, married his dad, right after high school, just before he was shipped to fight in Europe, during the Second World War...His father was killed, leaving his eighteen years old wife, to care for their baby... The parents of this young widow, who warned her, that if she married this young man, they will disowned her - did just so! This terrified young woman, practically a child herself, was left all alone with a baby and without any emotional support... Is it a wounder, that the only way out of her terror, was alcohol?
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I began to work with Bill on removing the programming in his Subconscious Mind, which said: “My mother doesn't love me!” and asked him to bring, on the following visit, hi childhood photo album Together we watched his young mother, embracing him and looking lovingly into his eyes! It helped Bill remember, the loving moments the two of them spent together... Now, that Bill was looking his old photos, through the eyes of an adult, he began to understand the tragic life his mother had, realizing that her unhappiness was not caused by him... (as children often do...) The "Grown Up Bill, realized that his mother was 'Only Eighteen', when her high school sweetheart (his Dad) was killed... As a therapist, it was extremely rewarding, to watch how Billy's long-time Anger and Pain, is replaced by Compassion instead of Resentment, as he was realizing, that his mother, who was 'Just a child' herself; was rejected by her parents, devastated by the death of the young man she loved and burdened, with an overwhelming responsibility of raising a child alone...
Bill was finally able to understand, why this poor frightened, lonely and vulnerable young widow, turned to alcohol, in an attempt to escape her over X whelming pain and fears ... My first step in our therapy, was to use Hypnosis, in order to erase and replace Bills programing, which said: "My mother doesn't love me", to a new one:"My mommy loves me very much!" His 'Homework' was to repeat it every night, before going to sleep and upon waking up in the morning. The tools I used, besides the Clinical Hypnosis and 'Voice Dialogue' and Guided Visualization, helped to "Releas his pain... Billy's healing progressed with each and every session...The 'old programing', which was implanted in his subconscious mind: "My mother doesn't love me", was fading away and replaced by visualizing a 'Happy Childhood'... As time past by, Bill began to date different kind of women, then those he was dating before: Much more stable, unlike the 'Role Model' of his poor vulnerable and frightened young mother, who raised him in his formative years... After a year from our last session, I was happy to receive an invitation to his wedding...
Case 2 - "Norma"
One of the most 'fascinating' cases I had, was Norma, a thirty years old, exceptionally beautiful woman Norma suffered from severe Agoraphobia (fear of leaving her house), which was getting worse, as the years passed by... During puberty, Norma began to fear going into Malls, Stadiums, Theaters, or any place with large gathering of people... Her High school appeared to be "Too Crowded", during assemblies or sport events, eventually, even the class room, became suffocating... Norma had to leave school and be home schooled... When she turned seventeen, Norma was able to pass her driving test, received a license and for awhile, enjoyed driving! However, the Agoraphobia came back; it was so debilitating, she become a recluse... Leaving her home only when it was absolutely necessary and always in the company of some one she knew... After several months of working, without seeing any improvement; I began to wounder if I should give up, which I have never done before...
One day, Norma and I were talking (again) about her childhood and the fact she had no siblings... I casually asked her, how come she was an only child, to which she had no answer...X "I was never told why", she said... I suggested she asks her parents for the reason... When she came back the following week, I was stunned by the answer... It turned out that Gloria's Jewish mother, who was born in Germany before the Second World War, lost her entire family in Hitler's Gas Chambers...She eventually married another survivor and the two of them, refused to bring children into a world: "Where such horrors could take place"... Gloria's mother had two planed Abortions, before she conceived Norma; who was "An abortion which was not successful.....""God Almighty!" I said when I heard this, wondering, for the first time, if Embryos are able to experience Fear... “Just imagine the possibility, that when you were in your mother's womb, you sensed that "Someone Out There' wants to kill me!" It is no wounder you are afraid to "Go Out 'of your house", which symbolized the safety of the Womb! I have heard before about the possibility, that embryos are able to feel the mother's emotions and was looking for more information about embryos, at different stages pregnancy; but was unable to find any...
One day, Norma came for her session, smiling brightly... “Come look out the window Doctor Shira! I would like you to see something...” I looked at the direction she was pointing and saw the same car, her mother always drove her, for our sessions... When I looked at Norma questioningly, her smile broadened: “Can't you see that my Mother is Not sitting behind the wheel? This time I drove here all by myself!!!"
Case 3 - "Steve"
"Steve" was our landscape designer... Even though he was not formally educated, Steve was a true Artist, when it came to garden design and had deep understanding and love for plants, flowers and trees... I learned from him a lot about gardening... When Steve heard that part my work, included at times "Past Life Regression", he became very interested and asked if I 'would do it with him'... Since his birthday fell on the following week, I gifted him with a session... Steve was 'Gay'. The reason I bring up his sexual identity, would be revealed, as you go on reading this post...Steve was extremely X effeminate...(I believe it is called "Queen" in 'street language' ). The only reason I mention Steve's sexuality, is because of his tragic 'Past Life', we came in touch with under Hypnosis... This session made me wounder, if people may be able to 'Choose their next iingncarnation', in order to erase karmic debt'...
When Steve was under deep Hypnosis, I regressed him to one of his past life times... I asked him to imagine himself walking in a corridor with doors on bouth sides...Then instructed him to stop next to one of the doors and walk outside and asked him to to describe his surroundings.... He told me he could see himself standing in a vineyard.. When I pushed for more details, he became blank (it is common to resist 'Going deeper' during First Regression) “Look at your feet Steve and describe your shoes to me” I said. After some hesitation, Steve said; "I can see Leather sandals, tied around my ankles..." When I asked what was he wearing, Steve told me it was a Roman Toga, but was unable to see anything else. I instructed him to go deeper and deeper, into the state of hypnosis, then calmly describe to me the day of his death, during this recornation...
Steve became agitated and was unable to speak... I took him deeper into the state of Hypnosis and instructing him to talk about the events, which took place, without having any Emotional Attachment After calming down, Steve described himself, sitting on the flat roof of his house:"With my wife and our two daughters"... He described how they were laughing and sipping red wine. “Look how fortunate we are” He was telling his wife, pointing at the girls, the house, the surrounding fields and the vine yards It turned out, that in this recornation, Steve was one of the main suppliers of wine, for the Roman army... He had a tender smile, as he described the love he felt for his small family and how happy he was that night, as they all set together talking, laughing, admiring the full moon and enjoying the cool breeze, after the long hot day... "So what happened next?” I asked, hating to interrupt this happy scene... "How did this turned into the day of your death?"
Steve cleared his voice: "We hear shouts and see a runner approaching, yelling that the 'Barbarians' were getting closer and destroying everything on their path...” He continued to describe, how he gathered the “Outside slaves” in to the villa, closed and bolted the big massive wooden doors, making sure his wife and daughters, were hidden in the wine cellar and with sword in his hand, he and a group of armed slaves were ready to do battle! The Barbarians smashed the doors and stormed into the house; destroying and killing everyone on their path and set the house on fire before leaving... "What happened to your wife and daughters?” I asked "They were among the dead..." Steve answered sadly. “How can you know it, when you were upstairs and they were hidden in the cellar?” I asked. Steve explained that he was mortally wounded, but was able to crwel on the floor...With a shaking voice, he described how he asked them to forgive him, for not taking better care of them... "How did You die, Steve?" I asked. "The fire... fire getting closer!" He mumbled and started to cough and choke... I immediately took him out of the hypnosis state instructing him to erase the memory of this old trauma and begin to feel calm and peaceful... X"As a matter of fact, when you open your eyes, you will feel better then you ever did before, since I helped you to come in touch and and eliminate the memory of those traumatic events, which were embedded in your subconscious mind, for so many life times! You are finally free!"
When Steve opened his eyes, after the the hypnosis session, he remembered nothing! I gave him the tape of the recording I made, during the session and we parted. The next day Steve called me, sounding a bit shaken... “Was this My voice on the tape?” He asked with astonishment... It was then, when I realize how Steve's voice, during this session, was much deeper, lacking the nasal tone of his regular speaking voice... “Yes! it certainly was...” I smiled. Forf a while, there was silence... “Who were the Barbarians?” Steve finally asked... He was not very educated and never read or heard, about the Barbarian tribes, which swept Europe, leaving behind paths of distraction, which would eventually, contribute to the fall of the Roman Empire... A few Months late, I was reading how Souls, choos the person they enter after birth, so they can correct old Karma... I Suddenly had an 'Aha Moment': 'Could this be the reason why Steve chose to come back as a “Queen"? So he would never again have a wife and children... Did he pick his present sexual orientation, in order to prevent any possibility, of 'Betraying the people he loved, by making sure that he will Never again have to go trough the unbearable pain, of lossing the three women he loved?...
Case 4 - "Iris"
Iris was a young woman about twenty six; she had a happy childhood and stable upbringing, by loving parents and extended family... Iris was happily married to her high school sweetheart and was enjoying her work as a kindergarten teacher. The reason she came to see me, was her reoccurring Nightmare... In this dream, Iris is a young girl about twelve, warped with a piece of leather... Her people are out; the men hunting and the women gathering berries and herbs in the nearby forest. Iris was left by herself in the cave, to take care of the sleeping children and babies and was pouring seeds, dry fruit and nuts, in to"Jars", made out of dry animal hides...
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Suddenly, the ground begins to shake... Iris hears heavy footsteps getting closer and closer... When she picks through a small opening, she sees a huge Monster, making it's way up the hill, towards the cave... Terrified, Iris tries to drag a large stone, in order to reinforce the heavy skin, covering the opening of the cave, then runs to protect the sleeping babies at the back... She is able to hear the foot steps of the 'Monster', getting closer and closer... This is the moment, when the Nightmare came to an end! "Please help me Doctor Shira," Iris begged me, weeping: "This nightmare seems to come more often now... And the craziest thing of all, is that When I open my eyes, I can still SMELL, the horrible odor, this monster left behind... I begin to wounder if I may be losing my mind! Do you think I am going crazy? Is it true that some lost souls are wandering around, trying to enter us through our dreams?"
I was studying with Dr Hal Stone, that the way to get rid of a 'Dark Shadow', is to"Embrace It!" and began searching my mind, for ways to help this poor, terrified young woman, who was sitting shaking in front of me... After instructing Iris to lie down on the reclining chair, I covered her with a blanket (as I do with all my clients) and regressed her into a deep state of hypnosis, suggested, that if and when this Nightmare comes back; the moment she hears the footsteps of the 'Monster';to visualize herself putting food in one of the stone bowls and place it at the entrance to the cave... When Iris came to see me the following week, she was beaming... "It worked doctor Shira! It really worked!!" She told me how several nights, before this Nightmare returned, she visualized herself, taking a plate of food, which she prepared ahead, placed it in front of the cave's entry and ran back... Later, saw the "Monster" approaching the plate sniffing and rambling, before eating the food on the plate, then turns back and disappear! Iris nightmare never came back again...
A colleague of mine, with whom I shared this case, was fascinated by it and wanted to know, how did I think of such a solution... I shared with him that years prior to working with Iris, I was attending a lecture at the Kabala Center of Los Angeles, where the founder of the center, Rabbi Berg, was talking about the greatest fears people have, which one of them, was the Fear of Satan... "If you are afraid that Satan is coming to hurt you," He said. "Tell yourself that Satan doesn't really want to hurt you; He is just Hungry! So visualize how you give him something to eat and he would leave you alone!"
With Love and Light,
Shira
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